#StopModernFeminism2016

In THE RANT by The Ajland

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Someone reading this post might think I hate my own gender, but I actually hate radicalism which is exactly what I consider the modern day feminist movement. Naturally as humans we all want to have the same rights, but you can’t be for equality when constantly pointing out the differences between the two genders – that’s not how it works. Get your pitchforks ready, Femi-nazi’s – I’m sure you’d rather burn me instead of your bras after reading this one!

Disclaimer – This is an opinion piece written on my personal blog by ME. As always, opinions and civilized debates are welcome with open arms, but rude commentary is not. While I love being educated – my opinion is rarely dissuaded when it comes to political topics. Your argument may even include that I am “confused in regards to what feminism really is” – but this is what you’ve portrayed it as and that’s all that really matters.

VIOLENCE

Twitter was in an uproar after Amber Heard shouted abuse and everyone was so quick to jump on the #ImWithAmberHeard train. What irritated me the most was the argument turning into “She SHOULD get spousal support because Johnny Depp hit her” – So am I understanding that monetary compensation in exchange for beating her is okay? Fuck off.

“Amber Heard shouldn’t have to prove she was abused” – Um, technically she should. She didn’t report it until after spousal support was denied. In a perfect world, the judicial system would work on facts alone. Not race, not gender, not religion. Your views on domestic violence cannot take precedent over what’s on paper – That’s what makes great lawyers so great, the ability to separate their emotions out of cases. If the roles were reversed and Heard hit Depp and didn’t report it to police on the night of, but only after he had been denied spousal support – would you say the same thing?

Let me be clear – domestic abuse is NEVER okay, but the claim should hold the same value no matter the gender.

While I think women deserve equal rights as men, I accept that sometimes there are things that can never be equal between us. It may be a harsh truth, but a genius can probably figure out that men are usually physically stronger than most women. Women would like the same equality as men, but at the same time they wouldn’t be okay with a man fighting a weaker woman. If I was to use Rhonda Rousey as an example and she challenged GSP to a match and GSP beats her badly without any mercy as he would do to any other fighters, would he be considered an asshole? I’m not a UFC fan so this could be the wrong comparison, but generally sports leagues are divided into men and women leagues for a reason – the difference between us is too great. Even men in different weight classes compete in the same level as one another.

FINANCES & FAMILY

And we’re back with Amber Heard. I think these two were married for what, a year? I grew up watching Johnny Depp since What’s Eating Gilbert Grape? (Great movie if you haven’t seen it. Mini LEO!) This movie came out in 1993 – I’m not entirely sure how movie royalties work, but let’s assume Depp is still collecting residuals on this. Now you have a new wife 20+ years later who gets claim to some of this money simply because you were married? Does this make sense to any of you? Again, I have to do a role reversal. Imagine as a woman if it was you and some guy was trying to take half your money.

Unrelated to Amber, we have the countless arguments about unequal pay… if you took a look at the numbers for the most remunerative majors in universities – it’d be pretty obvious why the pay gap. You choose what you study and women aren’t choosing the bacon bringing careers. It’s not like there isn’t a significant change in the traditional roles, though. Back in the day, the wife would stay home while the husband worked – neither role was inferior to the other. Both were vital, but feminism essentially caused the views on homemakers and housewives to be frowned upon. If I have a baby, I plan on staying home and rearing my family – that doesn’t make me a bad representation of women and shame on feminism for ever trying to tell women what role they should have to play in their own family. Business is business – family is not business. In any event, this tangent as a whole is essentially irrelevant to the case because no matter what the gender, age, color, race, or religion the person is – the solution is the same. IF YOU AREN’T MAKING ENOUGH MONEY, FIND ANOTHER JOB.

“I’M A STRONG INDEPENDENT WOMAN AND I DON’T NEED NO MAN!”

Loud sigh for the women that preach day and night about how they’re independent and want to make their own money – which is fine and you should. Did you know you can do that without emasculating the male gender? Don’t worry, I brought an example. When a man holds a door open for you, the polite thing to do is smile and say “Thank you”. You shouldn’t say “I can hold my own door” – you know why? Because it’s just fucking rude. If a man wants to offer you his seat because you’re a woman? These are manners, and you shouldn’t get offended that someone has some towards you. I don’t believe in shaming a man for having proper etiquette in regards to how to treat a lady and it doesn’t make me any less independent to expect them of a man. He was raised to respect women and anyone viewing that as anything but admirable makes me question their sanity. One of the biggest causes for the lack in chivalry today is the modern day feminist. I see it when I go on Instagram and see people use social media as the scapegoat for their break ups, but have we taken the time to look at our inner selves? Maybe we need to stop pointing fingers and accepting some of the blame, ladies. Let your man be a man.

ATTRACTION IS BIOLOGICAL

When did it become okay to call men “shallow” and “cheap” for liking long legs and big boobs? Women ignore basic biological facts about male sexuality, even shaming them for being attracted to such things. You can’t argue with attraction and you can’t blame society for “telling us what to be attracted to”. If I’m not attracted to Danny DeVito, but I’m attracted to Justin Bieber – Does that make me an asshole? Of course not… because I’m a woman, right?

PICK A SIDE ALREADY

Remember when Shailene Woods said she wasn’t a feminist? Every man-hating writer shamed her for this. Ironically, her reason for saying she wasn’t a feminist was how we are so horrible to each other as women. Another example? Feminists constantly rant on double standards and how women should be able to behave promiscuously without getting ’slut shamed’. Kim K comes out with a topless picture (Gross, but that’s neither here nor here) and of course, the Feminazi’s are the first on the scene to rant about how wrong it is. Which leads me into my next point…

“I WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH EVERYONE!”

Maybe feminists don’t need a man, but that doesn’t mean they don’t want to have sex with one or like one. Naturally, since man-whores aren’t really criticized for it, they believe they shouldn’t be either. IN MY PERSONAL OPINION – I don’t see it this way and women cannot go around fucking everything like a man does. I’m probably going to get a lot of flack for this one, but this double standard is the nature of humankind. You know that quote about the keys? Shitty lock, master key and all that. The beauty of living in 2016 is that you don’t have to take my opinion on this, though. I don’t even really understand why this is such an uproar to begin with. You wanna be a hoe? Go be a hoe. You want a high five in the locker room after getting it in with a bunch of guys? Here’s a high five. Do you, boo boo.

IT’S OKAY TO BE A WOMAN AND NOT BE A FEMINIST.

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THE CLASSIC LADY
Dolly Parton – If you know who she is (Does anyone not?) – “She is known in her industry for her business acumen and never-let-go-of-it femininity. She is always a lady and never allows herself to sink to the level of those she feels beneath her. She always rises above abuse (from boob jokes to bad reviews) with a smile, brushing it off. In her entire life, whenever she is asked if she is a feminist, she says “no.”

goodnight